16h March 2006 

I have been thinking over what’s happened over the past 19 months of reunion and it isn’t called a roller coaster for nothing. From my own experience I remember the joy when I initially found my son even though I hadn’t been searching for him. It was through which is a British based website for genealogists and people researching their family trees. I almost immediately plunged into despair, hurt, anger, pain…so many negative feelings of suddenly having to deal with memories I hadn’t dealt with for 23 years. This wasn’t helped by my son’s attitude that reunion was all about him like my feelings didn’t matter. We muddled through which included insisting on ground rules which he didn’t always like. The good days more than made up for the bad days especially knowing we share so much in common. Raising a child isn’t just about nurture, nature plays a part in it as well. More on that tomorrow…


About Philippa

I am married to Rick and we live in a small town in County Durham. We have two dogs, a cat and two budgies. I am also an adoption survivor. In 1981 my son was born and I was then forced to surrender him. It took 23 years and reunion for my to find out that my son's adoption was legally known as a forced adoption and illegal but social workers got away with it because mothers didn't know their rights.
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