28th July 2010
Around the time Anthony went on the council waiting list he found himself a girlfriend which cheered us up. They ‘met’ through an online dating service so were chatting for a few weeks before meeting up.
The first time they met up it did cause a bit of a disagreement between us and Anthony. Rick and I asked him to make some changes on a couple of our sites before meeting up with her. Anthony agreed to this and we thought he had completed by the time he went off for the day. This was also the start of our relationship with Anthony slowly going downhill.
We had a sneaking suspicion Anthony would stay over with his girlfriend as she had booked into a hotel. She lives in Essex and as they wanted to spend some time together she chose to stay over in Canterbury. The offer had been for her to stay over with us to save her money but we don’t know for certain Anthony asked her. By this point we knew Anthony hadn’t completed everything we asked him to do. However we decided not to say anything when he let us know he would be staying over the night as we didn’t want to spoil his time out.
The following day Anthony rang to say he wouldn’t be back till much later so we were both annoyed with him. It wasn’t that we minded him having a social life and were very happy he was. What annoyed us was that Anthony knew we were working to deadlines. After talking to him again it was agreed that we would take his laptop to him to complete the work. By now Anthony’s plans had changed to him staying over again.
I was annoyed and disappointed as I had thought we were making headway with his attitude towards us. For years Anthony has been arrogant, patronising and condescending towards me in particular but had eased more recently. I felt as if Anthony had been putting on an act for me to make me happy. Instead deep down I felt hurt. I was happy that Anthony was finally making friends and getting a social life. I just didn’t like the way he was behaving towards us.
We were worried about our eldest dog, Bouncer, at this time as his health was going downhill. Rick and I bought Bouncer back in 1993 when he was about 5 weeks old. He was cute, adorable and the runt of the litter. Bouncer was a Labrador bearded collie cross and was a fluffy ball of chocolate brown and white fur. A few years later we discovered he had a heart murmer which had been missed when he had been neutered. It had been a major operation as one of his testicles had been putting pressure on his prostate gland.
After Rick’s mother died in 1999 we noticed there was a lump forming slowly which worried Rick in particular. After his dad died of cancer back 1983 his dog had to be put down months later due to cancer. Rick was worried that the same would happen to Bouncer. Fortunately it turned out to be a fatty lump but we then found out he had a heart murmer which Bouncer had most probably been born with. It had, incredibly, been missed up until this point.
On the 17th March 2009 we went to Essex on business and walked the dogs in the original park that we used in the first several months of owning him. Bouncer’s health had been slowly going downhill for years and seeing what he was like on that day was too much. We took him to the vet we originally used who told us that it looked Bouncer had suffered several mini strokes. It broke our hearts but we agreed to have him put down. There is a beautiful pet cemetery by the vet’s and we were assured his ashes would be scattered there. We will never be able to replace Bouncer as he was such a character. It still feels strange not having him pottering about our home.